Dear Mom On the iPhone

Author Unknown


I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores.

But Momma, let me tell you what you don’t see right now…..


Your little girl is spinning round and round, making her dress twirl. She is such a little beauty queen already, the sun shining behind her long hair. She keeps glancing your way to see if you are watching her.

You aren’t.

Your little boy keeps shouting, “Mom, MOM watch this!” I see you acknowledge him, barely glancing his way.

He sees that too. His shoulders slump, but only for a moment, as he finds the next cool thing to do.


Now you are pushing your baby in the swing. She loves it! Cooing and smiling with every push. You don’t see her though, do you? Your head is bent, your eyes on your phone as you absently push her swing.

Talk to her. Tell her about the clouds, Mommy. The Creator who made them. Tickle her tummy when she comes near you and enjoy that baby belly laugh that leaves far too quickly.

Put your eyes back on your prize…Your kids.

Show them that they are the priority. Wherever you are, be ALL there. I am not saying it’s not ok to check in on your phone, but it’s a time-sucker: User Beware!

Play time at the park will be over before you know it.

The childhood of your children will be gone before you know it.

They won’t always want to come to the park with you, Mommy. They won’t always spin and twirl to make their new dress swish, they won’t always call out, “WATCH ME!”

There will come a point when they stop trying, stop calling your name, stop bothering to interrupt your phone time.

Because they know…

You’ve shown them, all these moments, that the phone is more important than they are. They see you looking at it at while waiting to pick up brother from school, during playtime, at the dinner table, at bedtime…..

I know that’s not true, Mommy.

I know your heart says differently.

But your kids can’t hear your words, Mommy. Your actions are screaming way too loudly.

May our eyes rest upon those we love, first and foremost, and may everything else fall away in the wonderful, noisy, sticky-fingered glory of it all.

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19 thoughts on “Dear Mom On the iPhone

  1. These smartphones, which are supposed to increase our communication abilities, are, IMO, actually destroying communication skills. We used to chastise kids for always playing video games…well Mom and Dad, what do you think you’re doing?

  2. My mom sent us outside to play, and no one criticized her for not following us around and commenting on everything we did. Her kids are playing outside! Yay!

    • YES! I agree. Mommy guilt is bad enough already. I spend 99% of my day serving my family and other people. If I take 10 minutes while my daughter is occupied with a toy or on the swing set to do something for myself, I’m now not a good mom??? GOOD LORD! I agree we should spend all our time focused on our phones but let’s be realistic and remember that just because we have a child does not mean our needs as a human vanish. We still have the need to relax and have some “me time” every now and then. It’s not a terrible sin to check your email or say hello to a friend sometimes instead of watching your child play in the sand!

  3. thank you i really needed this, when i feel like im losing my mind i do this… what an eye opener for me thank you for reminding who and what is more important than my phone when im out with my family…..May God Bless YOU

  4. Don’t assume the “mom on the iphone” is always on the iphone. Maybe she is a single mother and wanted to take her kids to the park so they could have fun while she really needs to be at the office handling business. Maybe she’s had a bad day and is just one more “Mommy” away from losing her cool and is trying to distract herself. Maybe she’s a student needing help, or researching a medical diagnosis she or her child was just given. No one is perfect, don’t pass judgement. It just takes a moment to brighten someone’s day with a smile.

  5. Great post! Thank you for sharing. Definite words we can ALL benefit from. I know this hurt my heart a bit to read, but it’s because it’s true. My iPhone recently broke and during the time I haven’t had it (3 weeks) I’ve realized just how much time I have wasted on it. I have a wonderful husband and 2 darling boys (so far!) and I have been spending more time with all of them since my phone broke. And they all love it! And I love it, too! Makes me totally want to be on my phone way less when I get it fixed.

    • Is no difference! You are still neglecting them! Which is more important? Only you can answer that one! Have an unstressed day!

  6. Sounds like a few commenters of guilty of this the way they’re getting so defensive. Shoot, we’re ALL guilty of this. I think what the author is saying..isn’t “Shame on you for using your cell phone” it’s more…”Yes, we all have business to tend to, cell phones, what have you…but don’t forget to give positive one-on-one time with your kids! “

    • Jennifer, you completely misunderstood my comment. I am telling the author not to judge other people. Considering this is a chance encounter at the park, how is she to know what goes on the rest of the time she’s not observing. And for that matter, why is she people watching instead of looking at her kids playing in the dirt or spinning or twirling? Being a mother doesn’t mean you lose your identity the moment your baby is born.

  7. To all the moms and dads of Texas and the nation! Stop and hug your kids today for a long time and tell them you “Love Them”!

  8. Some of you people don’t get it, do you?? If this doesn’t pertain to you so what, but if it does than it will hopefully strike a cord and see that “time” is flying by and you don’t have much of it when your children are only here as “little ones” for but a moment….take that moment and play with your children and spend some precious time with them. The rest of you negative complainers about this blog….well, go back to your cell phones, you missed a call. Wooptee-doo!

  9. It’s amazing how some people can find a way to be insulted by everything they read. This is meant to remind parents to be engaged with their children. If you already are, great. No one is calling you a bad parent, implying that checking your email for a few minutes is a terrible offense, etc. This is just a little encouragement to be present and notice the beauty in your children while they are still young and wanting/needing your time and attention.

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