When Are We Going to Forgive?

by Julia Robb

I’ve been writing about Texas history for the Heart of Texas Blog because it’s important for Texans to know how the past shaped our culture.

If you stick with me in the coming weeks, I’ll tell you all I can about the good, the bad and the ugly.

In the meantime, I’m a little discouraged because some readers are taking up the old fights.

Rather than picking up a gun, or a fist, however, they’re verbally slugging it out

It’s not just one side.

Some Hispanics are angry with Anglos for taking Texas away from Mexico and then discriminating against them.

Some Texans with tribal ancestry are angry at Whites for taking their ancestors’ land.

Some Anglos are angry with Hispanics and tribal peoples for being angry.

As soon as I write about The Civil War, I will hear from somebody.

Some Southerners (including Texans) still resent Northerners regarding that little fracas we had with each other.

Add reconstruction and that’s another pile of resentment.

I’ve got a friend who refers to The Civil War as “The War of Northern Aggression.”

When I write about slavery, I’m sure both Whites and African-Americans will have something to say.

I don’t think I’ve even begun listing the grudges people have against each other.

I say, let’s stop the hatred.

Quanah Parker

Tribal peoples and Whites who took part in the frontier struggles are all dead.

The last Confederate and Union veterans are dead.

Nobody alive now ever owned a slave and most of the people who endorsed Jim Crow are dead.

Most Texans who looked down on Hispanics are dead.

Ask Ted Cruz.

We are now one country.

Why is anyone holding a grudge?

I’ll tell you why.

Because we won’t forgive.

We believe what happened to our ancestors was a personal affront to us.


We believe as long as we hold a grudge, the other side doesn’t win.

As long as we hold a grudge, we are punishing the bad guys.

This kind of unforgiveness plagues our personal lives and for the same reasons.

Holding on to anger, on our personal behalf, or on behalf of our ancestors, can destroy us inside.

And holding on to old grudges harms us as a nation.

Let’s love each other like we did on 9/11.

No matter what happened in the past, we are one people now.

God bless each one of you.



Julia Robb is the author of Scalp Mountain and Saint of the Burning Heart, eBooks for sale at amazon.com. She can be reached at juliarobb.com, juliarobbmar@aol.com, venturegalleries.com, goodreads, pinterest, twitter, Facebook, iamatexan.com and amazon author pages.



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12 thoughts on “When Are We Going to Forgive?

  1. This is an awesome point and I totally agree. Why can’t we all just get along? I think that it is silly for anyone to be angry or prejudiced against each other. If you take off out skin we would all look the same. We all have wants, needs, feelings, and problems. If we could forget about the hate, anger, prejudice and hard feelings about the past then maybe we could help each other through life and some of the more hurtful and hard moments in our lives. Then maybe no one would ever feel alone and so there would be less violence and suicide.

    • would be nice if more people understood the flag doesn’t mean hate it is our heritage and we are proud of it

  2. Unforgiveness and holding grudges only hurts the person holding the hurt in their heart. They are making themselves a prisoner of the past. It eats away at the insides of the person holding the grudge and destroys any quality of life they have. Remember that Jesus said that if we don’t forgive others, He won’t forgive us. Which way do you want it to be? The choice is yours.

  3. It seems like everyone wants to pick a online fight these days 😦
    I have really been enjoying all the history you have been posting.

  4. We are at a turning point. We can go the way of the rest of the world and let ancient slights rule (see the Balkans, Africa, the Middle East) or we can choose to grow together in prosperity. The melting pot worked much better than the “diversity” that now has folks of different races and beliefs sitting at different tables in the cafeteria, seething a bout “micro-aggressions”

  5. Ms Robb a sentiment of noble stature; if it could only be! I am afraid to many owe their very existences by giving impetus to these long dead issues. Think of authors , politicians, and the seriously unhinged that would be rendered mute. That is why i believe it will not happen; for it is not in man’s nature to truly believe his neighbor is as good as he. As such there will always be a market for hate!

  6. First and foremost I, as well as many others, do not consider myself African-American seeing as I have never even set foot on African soil. Second, As a Black American I do not hold any grudges against anybody except racial extremist no matter who they represent. I cannot speak in general for any other group, but I think the reason it’s hard for most Black Americans to get over things like slavery is that our identity as a people was almost literally wiped away, the majority of us don’t have anything to remember who we were before. Or at least we don’t know where to look in order to find out our true heritage. That being said I’m an American not by choice but by birth, and thus had American principles of equality ingrained into me and I know many more just like me. I can forgive you for something your father did, with time and patience, but never can it be forgotten for it is apart of our history as Americans and shows that greatness can come from desolate beginnings.

  7. The real enemies of our freedoms can only take them from us if we are too divided amongst ourselves to stand against them side by side. Great post.

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